A Questionnaire discussed in the above article was presented to a Group of High School Students. The obvious bias of the person writing the questions is clear. It is obvious the writer wants to get a discussion going and point out that homosexuality is no different than heterosexuality, and I notice and understand the point, but hope my answers shed some light on the misconceptions that many homosexuals AND heterosexuals have about morality and mankind.
- What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
I think my heterosexuality was caused by two things—my genetic inclination to be sexually attracted to the opposite sex, growing up in an environment where I saw that this was a natural and normal thing to do, and living in a society in which this was common.
- When and how did you decide you were a heterosexual?
I realized I liked boys when I started to have a crush on a boy named Todd in my kindergarten class.
- Is it possible that your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?
I don’t think so. I’ve been heterosexual since I was five years old and don’t plan on changing anytime soon-but there is no reason to anyway. It isn’t wrong. It isn’t against the will of God. And it isn’t hurting anyone. But I am not perfect. I definitely have other “born-with” desires that I have to watch. For example, I also have the ability and often the desire to engage in heterosexual behavior even though I am not married. I have given into this sin as anyone can see from my beautiful son who was born out of wedlock. While my son was God’s gracious way of taking my sin and bringing me back to him, I am still repentive and will do my very best to never do that again. Even though I have the “natural” desire to do this—even though my very instinct is to do this, because it is wrong—something God wants for only husbands and wives, I made a vow January of this year to stop this behavior until God blesses me with a husband. And if he doesn’t, I may have to “suffer” by not indulging in this desire. But until then–no matter the outcome, Jesus promises to be able to help us overcome our sin IF we cling to him and trust in him and follow him. . This goes for homosexuality as well.
Is it possible that your heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
No way. I love women. Women are my closest friends. They are sweet, soft, beautiful, and emotional. I understand why men would like them in an intimate way. I just prefer a man when it comes to sensual and sexual intimacy.
- Do your parents know that you are straight? Do your friends and/or roommate(s) know? How did they react?
My parents know I’m straight because I have had boyfriends. My friends know because I’ve talked about boyfriends. People I don’t know would not know I am straight though because I don’t broadcast my sexual preference. I don’t flirt. I don’t make-out in public. I don’t parade in sexual clothing or lingerie in public with a man on my arm. I don’t put stickers on my car that give a signal of my sexual preference. It is something that only people I know, know about me.
- Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality? Can’t you just be who you are and keep it quiet?
That is an interesting assumption. I don’t flaunt it. I put my head down when walking through a crowd of men. I am not a flirt. If I do smile and laugh it is with all people including women because I enjoy and feel happy around most regardless of their gender. I assume this question is a reverse question often asked of homosexuals. I will admit that I doubt every homosexual flaunts their sexuality. As a matter of a fact there are many homosexuals whom I’ve met who I didn’t know were homosexual until they told me or someone else did. However, I understand why critics of the homosexual movement would argue this because as a group you do not see heterosexuals parading down the street in S&M clothing and groping one another as we see so many do in these Gay Pride Parades. However, we do see heterosexuality flaunted on television and on commercials but I am just as much offended by that as I would homosexual flaunting. Sex should be kept out of the public eye—it has nothing to do with the viewers. It has to do with the partners involved. But talk to the media about that.
- Why do heterosexuals feel compelled to seduce others into their lifestyles?
Again, blame the media for that. Between advertisements on television, magazines, and billboards I agree that seduction is a big problem—everyone trying to sell sex along with their products. However, I wouldn’t argue that as something the general heterosexual public does. As far as the homosexual agenda—I wouldn’t use the word “seduce.” That would be much too smooth. The reason why we see many Christian evangelists trying to convert homosexuals is because they are trying to help them see how destructive the homosexual lifestyle can be because it is not fitting to the lives God wants us to live. But they are not doing it seductively. They should be doing it lovingly—spreading the news of Jesus Christ who loved the sinner, but not the sins—who helps ALL sinners be freed from their sins. Homosexuality is no worse a sin as lying or stealing or coveting or drug use or over-eating or self-righteous pride. But you won’t see me condoning any of those sins just because heterosexuals do it. We all just need to have some self-control and follow the Lord. We all need to stop justifying our sins. And when we mess up, which we will, repent and try again.
- A disproportionate majority of child molesters are heterosexual. So you consider it safe to expose children to heterosexual teachers?
I know where this question is going and I agree that there is nothing wrong or worrisome about having a homosexual teacher as long as the class discussions were on the subjects of the class not on sexuality—straight or gay. Leave that to sex ed and keep it there. Where I do have a problem is a homosexual man as a camp counselor for a group of boys and sleeping in the same tent or a lesbian counseling girls on a camping outing. I’d have just as much of a problem with this if a heterosexual man were counseling and sleeping in the same tent with a group of girls or a straight female were counseling boys. It is just inappropriate.
- With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
Because so many people are moving in with each other and having sex with each other and doing everything that husbands and wives are supposed to be doing with each other before they get married. Sexual promiscuity—whether that be heterosexual premarital sex or homosexuality is what the main problem is. Secondly, its our selfish idolatry of money, wealth, and possessions. We are so busy working and spending to make our family happye, we are not spending time with our spouses and children—the real way to make a family happy. And finally, we don’t know how to love “agape” style. Unselfish, unconditional love as a verb. It isn’t just a feeling. And we are too quick to want out when things get tough. And when I say “we” I don’t mean just heterosexuals. Look at the statistics in Massachusetts for the newly-wed homosexuals. The divorce rates are high as well. The problem is not a straight or a homosexual problem—it is a sin problem, period.
- Statistics show that lesbians have the lowest incidence of sexually transmitted diseases. Is it really safe for a woman to maintain a heterosexual lifestyle and run the risk of disease and pregnancy?
Only if you assume a heterosexual lifestyle is one based on promiscuity. Any lifestyle outside of a sacred monogamous marriage is dangerous. And I have yet to meet or hear of a virgin lesbian saving herself for the sanctity of marriage. So we can assume that for most homosexuals, premarital sex happens, and lets face it—in the world today, heterosexuals have the same problem. Hearing about someone who stayed a virgin past the age of 20 let alone until marriage is rare these days. The groups with no incidence of sexually transmitted diseases are monogamous heterosexual married couples who were abstinent until marriage. That is the group we should all try to fit in.
- Considering the menace of overpopulation, how could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual?
Hey—with that sort of outlook, we could justify the murder of millions of unborn babies in the womb too, right? Sure, without God, I could see how people could argue about the relativity of morality on any plain. But the truth is-there is a God. And he says it is wrong, no matter the consequences. But honestly, the human race will not survive regardless of its heterosexuality or homosexuality. With all the violence, self-indulgence, disease (AIDS too!) and famines, I sense the our human race will be on the verge of destroying itself within this generation. And that can be a bad thing or a good thing depending on where you stand with God. All he wants is for us to put our trust in him. He knows we are sinners. Just give our sins to him. Let him change us. Let him control our lives. And when we mess up, repent. If we cling to him for our salvation—-he will save us from the tribulation that will come upon the whole world. We are completely incapable of doing it ourselves as we can see from so many of the issues I’ve discussed so far. But his finished work on the cross was enough. But he is a gentleman. He gave us freewill so we can choose our destiny. He will not force his free gift of salvation on us. But we do have to accept the gift. So while I feel sorry for the many who deny their creator and so are giving God no other choice but to let them have their wish, I am not worried about my own demise. I have a peace from God that is beyond human understanding.
- Would you want your child to be heterosexual, knowing the problems that she would face?
I’d prefer for my child to be heterosexual because it would one less sin he will have to struggle with. But let’s remember, homosexuality is not the only problem on this planet. We have a sin problem—and straight people have it too.